Articles by Francis K. Githinji

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Dating Romance is the love and sparks fly, while in the process of seeing someone you really want. Dating Romance is very popular, and is the main reason why many people looking for relationships in the first place. Most people found themselves chasing the people they are from, because they simply attracted to them and want to take their relationship. While out, it is important to be prepared for you or with the knowledge about romance. This is to ensure, that will keep your emotions and your body. For this reason it is important not in the romance before it’s time to get involved. Let things flow naturally, if you are from, but keep their heads above water. When young people, it is very common for them to engage in early romance. The danger comes when the romantic leads to intimacy and, later, you realize that the person is not what you are looking for. For this reason it is important for you to take time, if you’re really somebody. Take your time and really test whether the romance is real. You can do this very easily by simply taking the time.

natural flow when it is genuine. Sometimes we just feel like romance and if this is good or bad, everything depends on you. There are people who are not looking for a romantic experience, a serious relationship. In most cases, people are looking for the experience and the love. Therefore, it is not fair to condemn the romance of meetings for people. If you maximize this romance, while want out, there are several things you can do to ensure that you can be romantic. First, the romance is a bit mysterious, it is important to keep that element of mystery. You must be in a deeper way with the person you are attracted to communicate. This means that you do not care about your time and from one to remember. It is helpful if you are to show your best side. This does not mean that to someone else, you need to know who you are, but the best of who you are.

is based on attraction, not just physical attraction. The couple will be attracted to other internal features. If you really feel that the relationship goes to a good spot, it is important that you take all precautions to ensure that your novel will lead to a safe interaction. That’s because you may not know exactly who you are to do. On a positive note, there are many people who started their romance while out. Many engaged in make love, and everything turned out beautifully. You need every step at a time, and you will not regret it. If you participate, you can not try to think very straight, but you certainly know what to do if you are a danger zone. Range

Why don’t people refrain from repeating bad actions that have actually caused them harm in the past? Jennifer Aniston lost Brad Pitt to Angelina Jolie, but she’s now seeing actor Justin Theroux — who the tabloids speculate she started dating while he was still with his live-in girlfriend Heidi Bivens.

I’m not one to follow celebrity gossip (I swear), but I was intrigued by Dr. Jane Greer’s analysis of the Aniston situation in her Huffington Post article, Jennifer Aniston: Is She The Other Woman or the New Woman? And I do agree with some of Greer’s points.

Dr. Greer mentions that couples work to keep a relationship alive in the face of “the never-ending fight.” Often, one person in a union gives up when they feel there is no solution. In fact, many relationships continue despite one person’s emotional detachment. The fights stop because someone has given up, but the other person in the relationship perceives this as healing. The couple stays together because they fear that final break. Relationships with only one investor can continue but they certainly aren’t healthy. A two-engine plane can still fly if one engine fails, but who wants to sit on that plane?

I disagree with Dr. Greer’s points that the other woman, or man, is somehow saving a failing relationship. Dr. Greer goes as far as to say that affairs save some relationships because the bored person is now being satisfied elsewhere. So, they go through the motions of their relationships, drawing passion from other sources. Call me old-fashioned, but I don’t think it’s ever helpful or healthy to have an affair.

Maybe a new and exciting person can save someone from his or her dying relationship and put it out of its misery. This other woman or man is essentially pulling the plug on the original relationship that was on life support. That’s all fine and good, but there’s still someone who wants to keep the relationship alive — he/she is the victim.

Love triangles are selfish. Everyone involved is satisfying their own needs, without considering anyone else’s feelings. The victim must let their disillusioned lover go. The cheater should open his/her mouth and explain that he/she can’t be in the relationship. The other woman or man should wait in the wings until said love interest has wrapped up the other relationship. It’s healthier for two people to end a relationship themselves than to have someone else end it for them. Life is short, be honest and save time when your relationship is flying on one engine. Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you. Don’t hold on to someone who doesn’t want to be there, and don’t pretend you want to be there if you don’t.

Can a love triangle help end a relationship? Or do you agree with me that a relationship should be ended by the two people in it?

A recent USA Today article cited sexting/texting as a gateway to cheating. The article argued that the internet has supplied yet another way to meet candidates for extra-marital affairs. Social media makes it easy to connect with new acquaintances, and re-connect with old flames.

A few flirtatious words or salacious pictures do get the blood boiling. The communication may be a seed for a clandestine meeting, as a couple seeks release from all that flirtatious buildup.

But I would argue that internet connections and sexting could be helpful for couples. Yeah, sure, Anthony Wiener is a dirtball, but he (allegedly) didn’t actually have extra-marital sex in reality. In fact, he says he didn’t even touch another woman. 

Some may say that Wiener cheated — after all, he got aroused with another woman — and maybe it was only a matter of time before he graduated to full on cheating after his sexting. But, what if the sexting release was enough to satisfy his need for another woman? Is it possible that the digital age is allowing people who may have cheated 20 years ago to virtually satisfy their wanderlust? I don’t condone Senator Weiner’s actions, but I did think to myself: “At least he didn’t actually touch another woman.” Is “virtual cheating” considered cheating?

I do agree with the article’s stance that cheaters will find a way to cheat with or without technology. Technology is another of many tools for a cheater. I mean, Henry VIII did have six wives without the Internet. If the Internet had been around in his day, maybe he would have gone through sixty-four wives and countless mistresses.

Cheaters will use any method to meet people and execute their desire to stray. But, in my opinion, the Internet and technology do not convert a non-cheater into a cheater.

What are your thoughts on the USA Today article? Do you think sexting always leads to cheating? Does the act itself count as cheating? Or is it an outlet that prevents real-life cheating?

Fans are up in arms because singers Chris Brown and Rihanna have been communicating via Twitter. Both Rihanna and Brown are downplaying the social media contact, maintaining that simple tweets do not a reunion make.

But it does raise questions: Can a physically abusive man change his ways? And should a woman allow herself to trust an abusive man a second time?

The Chris Brown-Rihanna relationship seems to be undergoing a slow process of healing. Brown was served a restraining order after assaulting Rihanna, who was his girlfriend at the time. Earlier this year, the restraining order — which originally required that Brown stay at least 50 feet away from her — was downgraded to a level that allows close contact betwen the two. Tweeting across the internet certainly isn’t a violation either way.

But suppose they get back together? Many fans will wonder if it’s the right thing for Rihanna (not that it’s our call, but that’s the price you pay for fame).

Everyone deserves a second chance. However, abuse and cheating are two exceptions to this rule. It’s debatable whether a cheater or abuser can change their ways.

I’ve always wondered why a woman would stay with a guy who hit her. Physical abuse never seems to be a “one-and-done” deal. And if even if it was, should a man be commended because he “only hit his girlfriend/wife one time in all the years they knew each other?”

From all accounts, Chris Brown has taken his anger management and counseling seriously. He’s made progress, and acknowledged the problem. Working on himself for another chance to be with Rihanna is a noble cause. Just like a recovering addict, he may come back stronger with a unique perspective.

But when it comes to cheating and abuse, I would not allow a single slipup. If you were cheated on or abused once, would you consider maintaining the relationship? 

Maybe offenders can be rehabilitated, but their behavior leaves too many scars on their past relationships. In light of this, perhaps it’s best for a recovered abuser to start anew with someone else. And it’s probably best for a woman who’s been abused to steer clear or a rehabilitated ex and seek out a worthy mate.

Can an abuser be rehabilitated? Would you allow a friend, family or yourself to give an abuser a second chance? What is your boiling point with this behavior?

Gay marriage was (finally) legalized in New York over the weekend — and writing in Slate, author Linda Hirshman argues that any victory for gay marriage is also a victory for straight women who want to marry. 

Why?

“Same-sex marriage represents the possibility that marriage can be an equal deal after all … The people fighting same-sex marriage know this. They’ve been fighting some variation of the battle against marriage equality — for women — probably since the early Christians argued for the equality of women’s souls. In the Anglo-American common law system, laws called ‘coverture’ eliminated women’s civic personhood when they married men. Unequal marriage was portrayed as a bargain between naturally created opposites: Women did women’s work at home, and men took care of their public role, making contracts for them and voting in their interests. Apparently unsatisfied with this ‘bargain,’ women pressed for equality, including marriage equality, ultimately giving rise to the suffrage movement in the 19th century and feminism in the 20th.”

It’s a good point she makes. All these people who are so rabidly insisting that marriage can only be defined as a contract between a man and a woman seem pretty invested in insisting upon the differences between men and women. They probably also have a lot of old-fashioned ideas about how men and women should be defined, and what roles they should play both in and out of the bedroom.

With the New York decision, the U.S. is primed to begin legally recognizing marriages between two people who are sexual and anatomical “equals” (more or less). That might be a good sign that we’ll progress culturally — expanding our notions of what marital partners are. This is one more reason I’m happy that the gay marriage movement is gaining strength. Say what you will about marriage — complain about it as an institution all you want, but let’s agree that given all the benefits, legal and financial and otherwise, gay people should be entitled to it as much as straight people should.

What are your thoughts about the issue?